It can be rough at times when one or both of you are building your business and the relationship falls into second place. Sometimes you can see it coming and sometimes you’re blind-sided or in denial. Maybe there are times when the relationship should be in second place yet how do you keep it from falling off the grid altogether?
Relationships can be the toughest when you’re an entrepreneur. At times, every Entrepreneur will ask is the relationship simply in the way or am I willing to give up my entrepreneurial path in order to make it work or better yet how can I make them both work at the same time. What seems to be more complicated is being in a committed relationship which takes more work than just being boyfriend/girlfriend with no real focus on what the future may hold. When you are committed so many things are riding on the relationship going well and both people doing their part. When it gets hard it’s easy to fall back into a routine similar to when you were single and things were probably easier. Remember when there were no other schedules to consider, no feelings to hurt, no one to let down and no reason to be home by a certain time or no need to check in so to speak?
The more the relationship is not a priority, you can expect it to suffer and go down hill and eventually meet its demise.
Here’s the thing, if you’re reading this, you may be at a point of being ready to call it quits. But there may still be hope, especially if you have a committed, trusted partner you’re working with and neither of you have given up.
Do this over the next few days and see how much your relationship changes for the better.
- Let go of unrealistic expectations of who you think you love and accept whom you have. We all have that fantasy of the person we thought we were getting but the truth is we both thought it was obvious to the other who we were but we were blinded by the newness and love so we missed a few things which were there the entire time.
- Love has to be nurtured properly to grow. Loving your partner means being able to love them the way they understand what love is, not how you understand what love is.
- Take time often to reconnect with intimacy and LOTS of it. Let me say this again, take time OFTEN TO RECONNECT WITH INTIMACY AND LOTS OF IT. Intimacy is more than just sex. Just being in the same room together working on a project, or taking an early morning walk or having late night pillow talks create intimacy.
- Stop basing your life on realty TV shows or what your parents did. Customize your relationship based on what you both are good at in the relationship. For instance, if she’s not that great when it comes to doing laundry consider having her fold and you wash. If he wants breakfast and dinner, but she works a lot, consider cooking at least one of the meals a day or so and make sure healthy meals are provided at other times.
The bottom line is choose your relationship first and every time and it being a 2nd priority won’t be one of the challenges you face as an entrepreneur. It is very possible to have both at the same time.
